Kinsey Scale

So today I took a test to see what my score on the scale was. I am #4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidently heterosexual. I am not that shocked. Even though I know I love women, I have found myself being attracted to men. I have had sex with one male before. We fucked a couple times. He was actually the first person I had sex with. I felt rather excited and nervous and scared all at the same time. I was going through a confusing time in life. I was leaving the church because I was gay but still was trying to find a way to make myself straight. After hooking up with, let’s call him Jake, I knew I was gay but I didn’t hate it.

With a woman I want to dominant and be the ‘fucker”. When I was with Jake I was submissive and I was “fucked”. I love the feeling of making my partner cum. It makes me more excited at the idea of pleasing a woman more than her fucking me. Don’t get me wrong I love being on the receiving end but hearing a woman scream my name while she cums is what I look forward to the most.

Would I have sex with a man?? I don’t know. My ex is extremely gay and would never touch a penis. I don’t think it’s repulsive.  I have thought about being involved in a group sex event. Here in Vancouver it is quite a common thing in the gay community. I have had multiple invites but have never gone. The gay community out here is very “free love”. Lots of my friends have poly relationships.  From time to time I have thought maybe that I should try it.

I didn’t know that sexuality was fluid and not a black and white situation. I think the majority of the world is starting to grasp the idea of having options. I am still exploring my boundaries and probably will for the rest of my life. Just like sexuality is a scale, basic sexual interest is on a scale as well. If I invented a scale to measure how much I think about sex compared to my commrades, I think I’d be a solid 9. I love sex and want to know more and more about it.

Today’s society let’s me say and do what I feel like, without being considered a whole.  Oh how the times have changed! I’m ready to take full advantage of the situation.  How about you?

Lesbian Bed Death?

I have heard of this odd phenomenon that occurs in lesbian relationships but it certainly hasn’t happen with us. I think the longest period we have gone without having sex is a week and this is because I was in the hospital! We do “nasty” probably 4-5 times a week on a regular basis. I can’t seem to get enough. Thankfully I have a partner who I can turn on in mins. She loves sex just as much as I do.

So I wonder how this bed death thing occurs. I have heard that sometimes lesbians just start treating each other as roommates and the sex gets boring. Sex boring?!?! I can’t even imagine myself.

My partner and I look at sex toys all the time and try new things. She loves being fuck with a dildo. The thing is I had to be super picky on picking one out. She doesn’t like the ones that look like a real dick. I just love that I have a harness so I can really fuck her when we get into it.

Now here is another question that arrives many a time! “Why don’t you just sleep with a man if you like be fucked with a dido?” Well the answer is, it’s simple completely and utterly different. They are not the same at all. Kissing a woman is like none other. Her lips are so soft and delicious. Her tongue sets you on fire. Her breasts are soft and perfect and her nipples get irresistibly stiff when you have her going. When you are a bonafide lesbian, you can’t replace any of that with “a real cock”.

My partner and I are not really together which is weird but makes things exciting. Just under a year of us being a couple and living together,  I decided I wanted out. We were engaged and she wants to have a baby. I have major commitment issues so it was all too much. So we decided to stay roommates and do a friend’s with benefits things. Both us admitted we wouldn’t be able to resist having sex with each other. So, it is part of the deal. I absolutely love our situation now. We are both happier and the sex is a lot more passionate that it used to be.

We have even started discussing the idea of bondage sex….now that’s interesting!